Imagine someone getting mad at an eleven month old child who was trying to walk but fell down. Imagine that person saying “Why did you even try, I knew you would fall, you stupid worthless child. You’ll never amount to anything. You better stick to crawling.” That would be absolutely absurd, not to mention child protection services would be knocking on their door. Would you say such mean things to a child? I would definitively hope not. But what about the words you say to yourself, are they just as mean?
What are the words you say to yourself when you think about taking risks. Do you say things like “I shouldn’t try for that promotion, I’m not good enough” or “That was stupid of me, I always screw that up”, Pay attention to the words you say to yourself. Are they uplifting, edifying and motivating, or are they degrading, demeaning, de-motivating? Psychological experts say 80-85% of what we say to ourselves is negative. Some of our self talk is absolutely nasty. As they say…garbage in garbage out.
I once saw an interview with Tiger Woods were they asked him what was going through his mind before he sank a 40 foot putt. He said something like “You will absolutely make this, you’ve got this”. Then they asked “What was going through your head when you shanked that drive on hole 12”? Tiger replied, “I’m better than that, that’s not like me.” I would love to hear the words that are going through his head nowadays. I doubt they are similar… and it reflects in the way he plays.
The competition is in our head and in our hearts.
Our hearts are the inner most part of our being. It’s our beliefs that are buried deep within us. What kind of beliefs are you sinking in your heart?
Whatever thoughts we allow to stay “planted” in our minds will grow up and take root in our hearts and produce fruit. If we want to produce good fruit we must plant good seeds and get rid of the weeds. What you put in your brain will lead to the path and action you will take. I recommend you only plant good seeds…. and keep the weeds and poison out.
Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
You can do it! I believe in You!